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alex's life book

  • In early 2006, I began creating a life book for my daughter, Alex. Click here for links to articles describing my experience.
  • And for those of you who are more digitally inclined, in late 2006, I recreated key pages of Alex's lifebook for an article I wrote for AlphaMom, using Scrapblog.

    You can see the final digital result (and leave comments, if you'd like!) here.

what's been on my nikon lately

  • And you can view my favourites here.

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Look! Over there! Something SHINY!

I want to know what you plan to do with Alex's hair as it gets longer. I suffer deep envy of women who look fabulous with short hair, but am also always curious to know if they have the patience/willingness to deal with long hair on their daughters. So fess up.

(Was that insipid enough for ya?) ;)


Are you planning any more vacations to lovely tropical locals? I have to live vicariously. I recently became a SAHM and we are building a new home so we can't afford a vacation. You take the most lovely vacation pics of your family and the place you traveled.


Wow, 2 posts for me in one day. I have a question. I'm hoping you have some insights, based on the people you know who've adopted through your agency (where it seemed like there are often transracial adoptions) and also what you and M. have experienced in terms of racially based reactions.

My husband and I are fair-skinned and reddish-headed. We live in the American South. We've been working toward adoption, and have been planning international adoption from a country where my husband and his family lived for many years and have strong ties. (The ethnic type is similar to ours in many areas of that country, but that's basically a fluke.) But we are reconsidering that country, and re-examining all our adoption possibilities. And here's my question: whenever I look into adopting African-American infants, I am almost immediately terrified by the agencies' emphasis on wishing to match these babes with parents of their own race. Plus, there are all the little stories you read and hear about how these kiddos grow up "alienated from their own culture" if they're adopted by someone like me and basically, how it's wrong.

This idea infuriates me. But then I think about the extra-complicated black-white issues in the U.S. And I think about my immediate area, with its very PC people and good schools, and know that an African-American child raised by white parents would still get a certain amount of crap around here. I suppose we as parents would get crap too.

And I get scared that all those people and agencies are right and there's something I'm missing, and I'm like the twentieth best option, right before "child labor factory," for these kids.

And I don't like trying to forge ahead with adoption when I feel like I'm ignoring one whole possibility just because there's a big pulsing question mark about this stuff hovering over it.

So, any thoughts?


Being that you adopted through a faith based adoption agency you must have some faith. You never mention church or anything spiritual. How about telling us a little about your beliefs? By the way, I hate political correctness, the truth is usually offensive. The truth will set you free. One of the major problems in the world today is denial.


Speaking of religious topics, how 'bout those Saints?


K, Just checking in. Love the new photos of girlie girl. May I answer Julie's inquiry? There are many people in the south who adopt transracially. We are an Asian/Caucasian couple who have adopted two AA babes at birth. Our agency sought out loving, socially, emotionally prepared families to present to expectant mothers who had a myriad of "criteria" of the couples in consideration; often race was much less important than say urban residency, education and support of extended family.

Lisa C.

How about a favorite story or two from your childhood in Trinidad?

Recently on one of the "world traveler" segments on Sesame Street, they featured a 5-year-old girl from Trinidad learning to walk and dance on stilts. Is stilt walking a common passtime in Trinidad? Curious minds want to know.

dave / higher powered

Actually, the Astros are doing OK. They might just make the playoffs. Hope to see you soon at Brasil.

Lisa C.

I thought of another one.

If you don't mind my asking, did Alex confer citizenship of your home countries (England and T&T) as well as US citizenship? I know she has US citizenship because she was born here, but I am unsure on the other nationalities. Thanks!

My son and I are dual citizens of the US and Iran. I qualified for Iranian citizenship by marriage and my son qualified because his father is Iranian. Dual citizenship is interesting to me, so that's why I ask.

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